Hi everyone. My dad is 80 and i live 90 miles away and though i speak to mum and him every day it is still a surprise to see how much he has changed.
From a vibrant assertive (bossy) inependant head of the family to someone who reminisces the same stories constantly, cries easily and gets frightened.
Mum and him share the same GP who to be honest doesnt seem to take things seriously but when mum breaks down he puts dad on anti depressants which make him worse so he stops taking them.
He wont have anyone helping as i have suggested Combat Stress as he shows signs of PTSD from his army service. But with that generation its brushed under the carpet as its just old age and not mental health.
Mum looks like a deflated tyre, absolutely exhausted.
I am grateful that there is people out there who understand for me and my mum and dad too xx

Hello Janine.

I have waited a while in the hope that someone who has been in a similar situation replied to you but now I shall answer your letter though for me and my husband it was different.

We were fortunate enough to have a GP who recognised my husband's symptoms. I can only suggest that you visit him and ask (quite determindly if necessary) if your father can be seen by your local Memory Team. They will be able to assess whether or not he has memory problems and set up the vital support for your mother. It cannot go on like this or you will very soon have two sick parants to cope with. Perhaps you could give it a go and see what happens. Good luck

Jill.

Jill