Hello again Yvonne.
I have read your email several times and it has brought home to me once again just how complicated that little word 'carer' actually becomes. Several of my friends had experiences similar to the one you describe where the person suffering from dementia has a perdonality change that makes them so aggressive. It is very painful. For my part,Jack turned from a self-assured ex- army man then business man into a man who became easily frightened and confused. I remember well the moment when he suddenly became frightened of the patterns on our coffee mugs. He had started going to the local day hospital by that time (Another story!!!) so I went to Ikea, bought half a dozern plain white mugs, hid the patterned ones and that did the trick. I felt as though I had won the lottery!!!
I do hope you continue to follow this website Yvonne and I do hope it will give some help and assurance to those people who are looking after loved ones in the early and middle stages of this illness.
All the very best my dear.
Jill.